Questioning the orthodox position on morally dubious doctrines like hell is unsettling to some and heresy to others but it is a spiritually honorable practice. The OT prophets did it for a living and paid the price. Jesus did it concerning core concepts of Judaism like holiness (Mark 7:1-23) and election (John 10:14-16) and we all know how that turned out. The reformers did in the face of the Holy Roman Empire and earned temporal flames and timeless fame for their troubles.
Take slavery, racism and misogyny as examples. For centuries they were taught from Scripture by a well-meaning clergy and obeyed by a compliant Church. However, a thoughtful minority grappled with the inherent anomalies of such un-loving, un-graceful and un-Christlike behaviors and forced their peers to do the same.
The verses used to support these beliefs are still in the Bible but we interpret them differently now and see their earlier exegesis as misguided at best and barbaric at worst. Perhaps the doctrine of eternal perdition will one day be regarded by an enlightened faith in the same way.
Bottom line: Reality is based on God’s perception, not ours. What we think doesn’t change what is, but that doesn’t mean we should stop thinking.