There are many roles men can assume: husband, father, grandpa, uncle, citizen, soldier, etc. Most are voluntary, based on personal choices, and they define who we are and how we impact others. But there’s only one role all men are born into and that’s mandatory for life—being a son.
A son has a special bond with his mother. Every cell in his body was formed in hers. Half the DNA in every one of those cells has her unique life-code and marks him down to his atoms as “Made By Mom.”
Mom is his first source of love, food, warmth, safety and nurture. She teaches him to crawl, stand, walk, run, think, speak, understand himself and relate to others. His branches will spread out and bear new fruit over the years but his roots will never change.
Nor should his sacred allegiance to her. If he marries his focus rightly shifts to his new wife and family but that doesn’t lessen the respect and honor owed Mom (and Dad). God even included this in the Ten Commandments: “Honor your father and your mother.” Although fifth on the list, it’s the first command that comes with a specific promise: “so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you” Exodus 20:12.
For these reasons and more a son owes his mother a lifetime of unconditional love, undying respect and utmost honor. These aren’t things she has to earn or renew; they are her God-given due and his God-given duty.
How a man performs this first and foremost role reveals his character and shapes the kind of men his own sons will turn out to be.